By John Drury
The most talked-about and well-publicised strategy recommended to manage our very busy lives is ‘work–life balance’. This term originated sometime during the early 20th century with regard to improved working conditions and shorter working hours for factory workers. It was meant to describe the idea that there should be reasonable balance between work and the rest of our lives. It implies that like a seesaw, there is an optimum point of balance that will work for each of us.
So, what would you think if I told you this is all a myth? That work–life balance doesn’t actually exist? And that in trying to chase this dream we are actually making ourselves sick?
Passion destroys balance
Most high achievers are passionate about their business, their careers, and their success. Yet passion and drive are the enemies of balance. By definition, if you are passionate you are going to always be out of balance. Passion means you are likely to find it difficult to turn off your brain when you leave your workplace. Passion means your mind will often be solving business problems in the night or when you are driving the car. High achievers can be made to feel guilty by the concept of ‘work–life balance’. They might even be viewed as workaholics by the majority of people for whom work is a job, just a means to income.
The concept of ‘work-life balance’ may have been well intended, but it is unhelpful in the 21st century. It puts work against life, creating an unnecessary conflict. Work is part of life, not against life. There is no seesaw that needs to be in balance. Rather, each of us has a whole life, every segment of which needs to be integrated in such a way that we can prosper and flourish.
‘Integrate’ is a much better idea
For high achievers, work is connected to purpose, not just a means of making money. When passion is involved it is easy to spend time and energy working, or thinking about and planning some aspect of work. It is easy to become engrossed and lose all sense of time.
The challenge becomes how to ensure that our work does not consume us in a way that hurts our health or the people we love.
There are seasons when work dominates everything, like when you start a new business, or work on a major project. There are also times when an important family issue will require more attention. Most of the time, in order to create a fulfilling life, we need to find a way to ensure there is progress in every important relationship and area of our lives.
The truth is that issues that undermine or sabotage business success are more likely to come from neglected areas of your personal life than they ever are from your competitors, the economy or any external source. Like every other important area of your life, your work needs to be integrated in such a way that it does not overwhelm and hurt all the other parts of your life.
TIPS TO INTEGRATE WORK AS PART OF YOUR LIFE
Map your world – Draw 10 circles on a page. Write down each of the key responsibilities you have in life; one per circle. Add circles if needed. Potential categories include: personal growth & learning, wealth creation, health & fitness, life partner, fun/leisure, friends, wider family, children, work/business, etc. You may need more than one circle for different parts of your work roles.
Decide what is important – Just as ‘homicide’ mean ‘kill a person’, so ‘decide’ means ‘to kill off options’. We really must deal with the fear of missing out. Choose what you want in life. Set boundaries around all that is important. Without healthy self-respect, this step is very challenging for some people. (For more, read my book)
Set ‘whole of life’ goals – Once you have determined the important areas of your life, you need to proactively set goals for how you want that area to look in a year. You move towards what you focus on. Goals sharpen focus.
Make plans – A goal without a plan is a wish. Most wishes do not happen. Make a simple plan that will help you achieve your goals for each area of your life. You are best to set annual goals and make 90-day plans. So much happens in our busy lives that plans need constant revision to ensure they happen.
Take consistent action – Plans are useless without action. Get your plans into your calendar. The first thing my wife and I put on our year planner is our holidays. That way they always happen.
‘Normal’ has been redefined over the past 20 years by the internet, smart phones and a global marketplace. You cannot work hard and hope that everything else just falls into place anymore. More and more people are dropping the important balls in the crazy juggle of life. The tips outlined above are a great starting place to integrate work with the rest of your life and creating a fulfilling lifestyle.
John Drury is a Business Mentor who works with busy high achievers to assist them achieve sustainable business success AND create a great lifestyle for themselves and their family.
John is also in demand as a keynote speaker, and is author of ‘INTEGRATE – why work-life balance is a myth and what you really need to create a fulfilling lifestyle’.
To connect with John go to www.johndrury.biz and follow him on Twitter @JDBizMentor and Instagram @JDBizMentor
